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Thank You

Hello my name is Lindsay and I am a single mother of three who just recently moved to my mother's home with my kids. Due to non-payment of child support and me not dealing effectively with my fiances. Recently I have been having health problems. But I look at your website everyday and read the positive information and pray that God will see me through another email. Another day that I will make it through with prayer and support. Thank you.

Anonymous, USA

Thank You for What You Have Done and Are Doing

Bill, just wanted to thank you for what you have done and are doing. I found out about you through a friend at my 30th High School reunion. When I told her about my current situation, she said I should check out your website. What a great place, I've been receiving the newsletter for 5 months now and enjoy the blogs and use the meals section and menus quite a bit. By the way your story and mine are almost mirror images. I have 6 year old twins,Calvin & Cassidy. They are the best thing to happen to me in all my 48years. My wife didn't pass(sorry for your loss) she now resides at her most recent rehab (8 total) sober for 6 months and is now employed in Ft. Collins and see the kids when she can every other week or so. Just wanted to give you an Atta A Boy, keep up the good work.

Dave, from Denver

Happy to Know There Are Good Dads Out There

We just wanted to let you know how happy I am to know that there are dads like you out around. You see, our dad is one of those deadbeat ones. I, Winter, was only four years old when he left us. My two younger brothers, Baylen and Dakota, were only two and three months old. He has never made an effort to have anything to do with us. We only see him once a year when we go to our grandmother's house for Christmas, and when we do see him, it is very awkward because we are now 18,16,and 14. He always has his second wife around and his two new kids, who are both not even five yet. He treats us like a buddy rather than a daughter or a son. He is all about his two other kids, and we are just not in the picture - we have never been. And everybody on his side of the family pushes us to accept it. How dare they? We can, however, say happily that our mother has stuck with us and raised us all on her own. Our mother is a good person all the way through and has always tried her best to get our dad to have even just a little to do with us. Until today, we had no idea that there were any good dads out there.

Anonymous, USA

Thank you Bill

Bill I wanted to extend a heartfelt thank you to you and those who are already sharing your site. I found your site quite by accident as I was searching the net for anything that could help my situation. I found your story and others who have written in very inspirational. I myself am a WIDOWED Dad 44 of three small girls 8,4,2. I lost my wife and love of my life last year in a MVA, and have spent the last 11 months in a real state of confusion, frustration, disarray (Hell). As I was thrown in to a real tail spin mentally, physically & financially due to this profound loss. I have devoted most of my time trying to get myself and the children back on track and have been struggling to get our lives normalized as much as possible. But everyday has been a struggle. I found inspiration in your words and of the other members who have also been down this road.

But the most poignant thing that you said that struck home (True) is once you get your head out of the obligation mind set and look at the situation as a blessing, things will become easier. I fully agree that a single father's mind set is the cornerstone of how and where things will be when raising their children.

Again I want to thank you for putting up this site. It is helping me more than you can know as the struggles of everyday existence and the challenges of raising three young children have really worn me down.

You're a good man Bill and God Bless you and your family.

Dave, from British Columbia

Don't Make The Same Mistakes I Did

I am happy to see a single dad taking time to try to help other single dads. I would like to share my story with you in the hope that you can pass it on and help other men from making the same mistakes I did.

I was married many years ago and one of the results was the highlight of my life my daughter Emily! Oh how I loved her so, still do! When she was 9 my wife left me and my daughter for another man. Just up and left one day, no advanced notice, no nothing!! She chose not to play a part in either of our lives. My daughter still does not have a relationship with her to this day. I still struggle to understand what I did so wrong to have her leave us the way that she did. I will be baffled forever on that one!

So there you go - me and my daughter to raise alone! Shock at first and then it became our lifestyle, it had to be. I started dating. I don't mean to brag but I had once been quite the ladies man, but always kept them from my daughter. I figured at the time it was a separate life for me and I did not want to engage the two ...until Maggie. Maggie blew my socks clean off!! Talk about beauty and brains, she was the whole package!! It took awhile but I finally brought my two worlds together and my daughter and Maggie met. Everything was good for awhile but you see Emily was not used to sharing my attention and that caused problems with my relationship with Maggie. Two years went by as Maggie waited patiently by my side as I knew we would be married, I just needed the perfect time. That "perfect" time never came. I continually put my daughter's needs above everything else and quite honestly took advantage of Maggies patience and good nature. I knew she would wait for me until I felt things were perfect and Emily was ready. Boy did I make a mistake. She didn't! One day she came to me and said she would not wait anymore and she left. My heart broke in a million pieces. I wish I knew back then the damage that I was doing to my daughter. I really thought that I was doing the right thing? I now realize what I have created. Emily is now 26 already gone through a divorce. Her ex says she is impossible to live with if she doesn't get her way. I gave her all the attention in the world as a child. I took her everywhere she wanted to go and bought her nice things. OK I spoiled her but she was my only child and #1 in my life. I didn't realize that I was actually doing more damage than good all those years. Now Emily struggles in relationships because she has become so difficult. She used to be such a sweet little girl.

I lost the love of my life that I will never recover from, and all because I didn't get it?? I was supposed to "parent" her. Teach her to have a wonderful family of her own. Now I see her twice a week and talk often on the phone. We have a great relationship, don't get me wrong. We just don't have great relationships with other people the way we should. Since then, I got lonely and finally remarried. She is a good woman and I will stand by her side, but she wasn't the one. I lost the "one" a long time ago. I will love her until the day that I die, and not a day goes by that I don't regret the choices I made so long ago.

My advice is that if you are fortunate enough in life to find your true love, hold on to it, cherish it, work at it! Don't lose it because of a child you have to care for. A good person around will only enrich their lives. Set an example for you kids or you may be paying for your mistakes for the rest of your life!

Steve, from Ohio

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